Dear Cece,
Me and my boyfriend have been dating
seriously for a long time now and basically, I feel like we have a
life together and it's fine but something in my soul feels like there
should be more. Like I should be madly in love with the man I'm
spending my life with and intoxicated by our life together rather
than tolerate it because that is what I have.
I'm not the type to start “shopping”
around for a new man and entertaining his social circle keeps me too
busy to get one of my my own (since being with him, I've lost many of
my own friendships) so I feel like without him I don't have any life
at all, much less the potential for something thrilling.
If I break up with him, I'm afraid I'll
hurt us both too much and I'll be completely alone and I don't know
how to start over. I don't want to start over, actually, I've been
working on this one a long time and part of me thinks it's ok to just
be “ok” and have a “normal” life. And what if he wouldn't
take me back if I wanted to?
What should I do?
Desperately,
Afraid to burn the bridges
Dear Afraid To Burn,
I think we have all been in a situation
that was at best mediocre, like you're describing, and understand how
difficult it can be to have a clear perspective on what the next
right action is.
Do you play it safe (and how long can
you stand to)? Or do you listen to that voice in your soul calling
out for something...more?
Here's what I want you to do. Go get a
quarter. Now flip it and let it fall to the floor – heads you keep
your “ok” life, tails you bust out of the rut and burn with the
heat of a thousand fires toward that mad love and exciting existence
that's quietly calling you, bridges be damned.
Which side is up? How do you feel about
that? There's your answer.
Please follow up with me, I really want
to know what you decide!
Lots of Love,
Cece
P.S. Sometimes you have to burn that
bridge to keep the zombies from catching you and turning you in to
one of them.
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